"Automate" happiness

Believe that there is a way to change how you habitually react to the outside world. For example, some people, when criticized by others, will feel sad and depressed and guilty; but others will respond with anger and denial; and others, laughter, and will make fun of the situation. You want to be able to love yourself unconditionally, and have others' criticisms "bounce off" you. You will be able to be happy, regardless of being accepted or rejected; your happiness won't depend on others' approval of you. You will simply be you, and that's it. You won't feel bad if others reject you, because you will know who you are, and know what you want, and feel secure, no matter what.

Develop habits that cause happiness...find out what causes happiness, and repeat those behaviors; and stop doing what causes pain and unhappiness. You will find that you are happy, and may not immediately be able to explain what it is you're doing that is causing you to be happy after awhile, because you will have automated the behaviors that are causing you to be happy. And when you automate a behavior, that means you are doing it without thinking about it; the process of doing it is subconscious. You may find out that you are doing things without even thinking, that once used to be very difficult and may have caused you much frustration. For example, driving a car. When you first started driving, if the car had a manual transmission, you probably stalled the engine many times. But now you don't even think about how firmly you press the gas, brake, and clutch pedals. And this is what I'm saying you need to do in other areas of your life. Have you ever thought about "automating" the way you make money? How about your health?