"Automate" happiness

Believe that there is a way to change how you habitually react to the outside world. For example, some people, when criticized by others, will feel sad and depressed and guilty; but others will respond with anger and denial; and others, laughter, and will make fun of the situation. You want to be able to love yourself unconditionally, and have others' criticisms "bounce off" you. You will be able to be happy, regardless of being accepted or rejected; your happiness won't depend on others' approval of you. You will simply be you, and that's it. You won't feel bad if others reject you, because you will know who you are, and know what you want, and feel secure, no matter what.

Develop habits that cause happiness...find out what causes happiness, and repeat those behaviors; and stop doing what causes pain and unhappiness. You will find that you are happy, and may not immediately be able to explain what it is you're doing that is causing you to be happy after awhile, because you will have automated the behaviors that are causing you to be happy. And when you automate a behavior, that means you are doing it without thinking about it; the process of doing it is subconscious. You may find out that you are doing things without even thinking, that once used to be very difficult and may have caused you much frustration. For example, driving a car. When you first started driving, if the car had a manual transmission, you probably stalled the engine many times. But now you don't even think about how firmly you press the gas, brake, and clutch pedals. And this is what I'm saying you need to do in other areas of your life. Have you ever thought about "automating" the way you make money? How about your health?

Develop habits that lead to success

What you need to do is develop new habits. "Automate" your behavior so that you move in the direction of happiness and success, without consciously thinking about it. Like walking, running, writing, reading, riding a bike, driving...when we do these things, we don't think about how we do them; we do them and our conscious mind thinks about other things. Our subconscious mind controls how firmly we press the gas pedal, how much force we apply with our hands to the steering wheel, how we turn our head to the left and right to look for traffic, etc. Making money should be the same...there should be a way to automate the behaviors that one does that lead to the accumulation of money. Same thing with maintaining optimal health, finding your ideal relationship, and accomplishing pretty much any goal.

EFT

I've been watching videos about EFT (emotional freedom technique). This technique is supposed to remove negative emotions that we are holding on to, which, once removed, the person will be happy and able to focus on his or her goals and take action toward their achievement with full speed. It "reprograms" the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is like a tape player. And it is a million times more powerful than the conscious mind, and it controls 95 to 99 percent of our actions. The "tape" runs, and influences our behavior. For example, you may think you want to get good grades in school, and think that you're a straight-A student, but if your subconscious is programmed for you to be a C student, then you will sabotage your efforts and slack off and procrastinate and get C's, even though you are telling yourself you are going to get straight A's this semester. There is a way to reprogram the subconscious so that it makes the person get straight A's. And I'm learning how to do that. You're supposed to be able to hypnotize yourself into a "theta" state of consciousness. From when we are born, until we are about six years old, we are in the theta state of consciousness. We are "downloading" programs into our subconscious mind. We adopt other people's habits, expressions, etc. We learn very rapidly, and our reality is mixed with fantasy. But when we get older, we use more of our conscious mind. We stay pretty much the same from age six onward, unless we figure out how to reprogram our subconscious.

What you focus on, you attract

"What you focus on, you attract; you literally magnetize yourself to it." -Bob Proctor

What you think about, you bring about. Keep your mind focused on what you want. It sounds simple and obvious, but it is actually really difficult to do. Monitor your thoughts for ten minutes, and start to study what you are actually thinking about. I bet 90% of your thoughts will be negative; you'll think about why you can't do something, why he or she won't let you do something, why you shouldn't do something, why it wouldn't be practical to do something, etc. What you need to do is start thinking outside the box. You need to train you mind to think differently. You want thoughts to arise that are favorable to you, and that move you toward the accomplishment of your goals, rather than stop you. You want 100% of your thoughts to be in accord with your beliefs and ideals. When that is the case, "the entire universe will come to your aid," meaning, you will manifest what you want as fast as possible. Yourself won't stop you anymore. And yourself was the only thing that was stopping you before, because you can't control other people. You can influence the way they react toward you, but that is by changing yourself. You can only control yourself, and when you change your behavior to what is pleasant to others, they will respond favorably to you, and get you what you want.